20 Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Pastor

Let’s cut the fluff and get real for a moment. Being a pastor is incredibly difficult.

The church is often guilty of only painting a picture of the wonderful blessings of being called to ministry—like it only gets better day after day.

things I wish I knew before becoming a pastor

We somehow forget to talk about the suffering involved. Did we forget, or are we afraid people won’t go into ministry if they know the truth?

I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there are some things we are failing to prepare new pastors for.

Here are some things I wish someone would have sat down and told 20-year-old me. I have spent the last decade learning these the hard way:

Things I Wish I Knew Before Becoming a Pastor

1. It will be the hardest thing you ever do.

No seriously, it is really, really, really hard! Imagine the most difficult thing you have done and multiply it by a hundred. That may be close to how hard ministry is. If you want to be a pastor because it sounds fun or easy, do something else.

2. Integrity and a love for Christ will not be enough; you have to be able to lead people.

Your character and love for Christ are the requirements for entry. These are crucial and more important than anything. However, no matter how godly you are, if you cannot lead people, you will struggle.

3. People will avoid you, and act weird simply because you are a pastor.

People will act one way when you are around, and another when you aren’t. Others will avoid you because you represent God, and they feel guilty. This is why many pastors dread the inevitable question when meeting someone new: “So, what do you do for a living?”

4. People will expect you to be available 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

You will get midnight phone calls and texts. Some will be urgent; others can wait. You will have to set boundaries in your schedule because a pastor’s job is never finished.

5. Workaholism will be rewarded, but it will destroy your family.

Pastors who work too much get praises and raises… until their family falls apart. Then we pity them. You will have to choose often between doing ministry and being around for your family.

6. When people stop attending your church, it will hurt.

No matter how awesome you are, some people will leave. It is inevitable. It may have nothing to do with you, but it always feels personal.

7. You will have to fight the urge to compare your ministry to other churches.

You always lose in the comparison game. If you compare to a smaller church, you will feel pride. If you compare yourself to a larger church, you will feel envy. Both are sinful.

8. Attacks from inside your church will be worse than from the outside.

You will expect some attack from the enemy outside of the church. It’s the enemy’s attacks from within, like Judas’ betrayal of Jesus, that hurt the most.

9. You will not be discipled unless you seek it out yourself.

The people who you want to mentor you are busy. Nobody has ever seen my “great young potential” and gone out of their way to disciple me. Every mentor I ever had in my life I had to pursue myself.

10. You will have to fight pessimism, bitterness, and even depression.

You will have seasons of doubt in God’s  provision, resentment towards people in your church, and even depression. One of the darkest years of my life was the result of a bad ministry experience.

11. Your success in the eyes of others will be measured by how many people you can get in a room.

I wish this weren’t true, but it is. If your ministry grows, people will praise you. If it shrinks, they will blame you. Like it or not, that’s how people think.

12. You will never be good enough.

No matter what you do, some people won’t like you. You will never be good enough to please everyone. You will also often feel inadequate and unprepared in your own eyes. You have to let this drive you to a greater dependence on Jesus. You are not the savior everyone needs; he is.

13. Your family will be profoundly affected either good or bad.

Like it or not, your ministry will profoundly impact your family. Some families grow closer to the Lord together in ministry; others grow further apart. Ministry will either make your family better or bitter. Fight bitterness.

14. Without a seminary degree, you will be considered less qualified.

I wish I would have pursued seminary earlier in my ministry. Not just because of perception, but also because the education has been invaluable to me. You can argue about whether you need it or not, but you will be judged if you don’t. And not getting proper education might hold you back.

15. Money will be a problem.

You will struggle financially—especially early on. Most pastors are not compensated enough. You have to be ready for this going in. Will you be OK if you can’t buy new clothes, a nice house, or get your wife and kids the things you wish you could?

16. You will likely move many times.

The average stay of a pastor at a church varies depending on their role. However, most pastors I know, including myself, have lived in multiple cities working for multiple churches over their life. The pastor who works in only one church their entire life is admirable and rare.

17. When you have to leave a church, you will leave many friends too.

Whether you choose to leave, or the choice is made for you, you will lose more than a job; you lose a church family. There is always a painful sense of loss when leaving a ministry. Your wife and kids will also feel it.

18. Spiritual warfare is real, and the enemy will attack you and your family in ways you never imagined.

Every pastor can tell you stories of crazy things that happen at the worst times. If Satan cannot derail you, he will go after your family. My family always gets attacked before God does something great. Pray often, and ask others to pray for your family too.

19. You will be discouraged, and think about quitting often.

Most pastors call these days Monday. Even if things go well on Sunday, the enemy will use that one negative comment to bring you down if he can.

20. It will all be worth it!

There is nothing greater than the reward of a life submitted faithfully to Christ. You will suffer. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it. Accepting God’s call to ministry is one of the best decisions I have ever made.

You will have a front-row seat to see lives changed, marriages healed, and prodigal sons return. The impact you leave will outlive your life. Generations of families will change because you were faithful and did not give up.

If this article sounds too negative, there are also many reasons I am thankful that to be a pastor. If this article makes you upset, it should. Unfortunately, this is the reality most pastors face every day.

Can you relate? What do you wish someone told you before becoming a pastor?


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  1. bweresoye ezekiel 06/29/2016 at


  2. bweresoye ezekiel 06/29/2016 at

    Its really hard job you need to interseed in prayer be you conclude to login this calling,unless you accepted by GOD himself

  3. Tim Walker 06/14/2016 at

    I found this a helpful article with lots that is necessary to take heed of. However, the first point, ‘Imagine the most difficult thing you have done and multiply it by a hundred’, is far too sweeping to be helpful. I don’t doubt that being a pastor is extremely hard, but plenty of people, sometimes even younger people about to go into ministry, have experienced things that are already almost unbearable. Such things cannot be multiplied by 100! Such things should not be belittled by being compared in such a way. Thanks for writing.

    • Anonymous 08/19/2017 at

      Says the guy who’s never pastored. It’s Christians like you sir that help to make the pastorate borderline unbearable. I’m writing this reply while sitting in a hospital waiting for my 2 year old daughter to recover from surgery. My dad was a pastor and the devil broke our home up with an affair when I was 14. I almost bled to death at 19. Got married and lived in poverty for a few years. Dealt with some self inflicted legal matters. I buried my father 6 years ago. I’ve dealt with chronic pain from health issues for over 10 years. But, I took over as pastor of a small church a year ago and can honestly say none of that other stuff comes close to the stress, burden, and difficulty of pastoring.

  4. Lola Oyebade 06/11/2016 at

    To further answer your response is of no importance whatsoever as you have become the judge of who can use for which Office of Christ and you are so “knowledgeable” BUT I realised that this forum is not the place for such venom! Our words are to build up not tear down or raise what displeased Christ. Be careful!

    You and I will one day stand before the Judgement Seat to account for what we did on earth. Kindly make sure you fulfil God’s Purpose. I love you with the love of Christ and pray that Christ be formed in us all..

  5. Dan Birchfield 06/10/2016 at

    Thanks Brandon, these are right on target. I’d like to share a few responses. #8 hit home as I was not prepared for the depth of meanness, hatred, and animosity I encountered in the church. We must be sure of our calling to handle the frequent attacks that accompany ministry. Many of us, probably most of us, carry deep wounds and scars from the merciless assaults of church members who go out of their way to make our lives difficult when we don’t do things their way.
    Also, I have been blessed through 30 years of ministry to have great mentors in my life. I’d tell any young person contemplating a call to ministry to have these relationships with older, mature pastors who we can talk with and learn from. These relationships have proven invaluable during times when I was going through a storm, which happens often in ministry.
    Finally, I wish someone had told me 30 years ago about the viable option of bi-vocational ministry. Last summer, I stepped out of full-time pastorate and re-entered the secular workforce. At 54, this was a huge faith step. However, the Lord has continually opened doors of ministry in assisting churches without pastors. I am presently interim of a church that had been through some challenging times and never have I felt more refreshed in my calling and purpose.
    Thanks for letting me share and God bless you.

  6. Rebecca 06/10/2016 at

    Thank you for number nine. I am not a pastor but desperately need to be discipled. To work through some difficult circumstances in my life. I keep thinking someone will just show up and help me. I realized i have to find someone myself. Looking for someone online does not count. ☺ Thank you!

  7. Dennis Newkirk 06/08/2016 at

    I’ve been in the ministry for 41 years and testify that all of this is true, especially number 20. No one has ever hurt me like the church and no one has ever blessed me like the church. We have established a 3 year pastoral mentorship for guys coming out of seminary and it is designed to help men discover how to cope with these issues. My prayer is that other churches will do the same.

  8. Jefferson 06/08/2016 at

    Very encouraging and on point, I have been into pastoral for 9yrs and it’s by the grace of God.

  9. Church Lady 06/06/2016 at

    My parents never regretted the ministry because they knew they were called, him to preach, her to pray. I never wished otherwise. When my dad accepted the call to his 1st church, he told them that his family was not for them to be critical of but to pray for. It was an inner-city church (wasn’t called that in those days) so they were glad to have a large family to come & work in the church.

  10. Jill Thomson 06/05/2016 at

    Been a pastors wife for almost 3 decades…always feel the most important question to answer in ministry is if Jesus is all you have…can he be everything you need? He has to be it for you in ministry because even in the most productive and fruitful ministries “desert moments” will come and you won’t survive them without answering this basic question well.

  11. Lola Oyebade 06/05/2016 at

    Thank you and God bless.

  12. John J. Iamaio, Ph.D. 06/05/2016 at

    One of the most insightful facts from Scripture that I have learned over the years, is the Biblical reality of plurality of elders. No man, no matter who he is, no matter how many degrees he has or no matter how eloquent of a speaker he may be, can be the chief preacher, teacher, counselor or administrator in a local church. To attempt to do so will bring havoc on one’s family, ministry and life. God has gifted a plurality of men to carry out ministry in the local church. We have different gifts and abilities from the Lord. Stop attempting to do it all. e.g. Acts 20:17-28; Titus 1:4-9; 1 Peter 5:1-5.

  13. Lola Oyebade 06/05/2016 at

    With respect even if I do your mind is made up. Also you are like those who question the validity of Paul’s apostleship and his answer is what I will give you again with respect. I am NOT a pastor to you but to those am sent I am THEIR pastor and thank God for that!

    Sadly while people like you still argue whether woman should pastor or not the fruits of the Holy Spirit and grace is evidently seen through both women preachers and the flock given by the Lord to them to shepherd.

    The way you have answered showed you have issue with women and I pray you meet The Christ of the Church who sent both men and women to do His bidding…

    “Again leave her alone” If you ever have a daughter that will be used by God in any capacity including pastoring God have mercy on you if you try to stop her. To do so is to see the Lord Himself. Brother in Him is no male or female…. Renew your thinking and stop using the scripture to sooth your argument. That’s the same way white slave masters used the bible to justify their slavery till deliverance came and now we have SOME MALE MEN in the church violating the word of God again. Repent Repent Repent before the door of grace is shut..,

    To speak against Foursquare founder like you did require repentance. If God ever use you in such capacity, you would’ve flooded the bookstores with many books on the latest move of God! What God pioneered through Aimee Semple McPherson has grown to thousands of churches all over the world… I know her name and I never met her SIR who knows your name? Repent and ENOUGH WORDS FOR THE WISE… Remember don’t start what you will never finish… Agape

    • Stephen Melekeowei 06/05/2016 at

      In my experience , the only sweet part of ministry is to be formally notified of your calling because at least you now know your purpose in this world but afterwards it is full of dramas . ( The Cross ) and sometimes it is very heavy to carry. Goodluck and dont stop praying till the end.

    • Mark 06/11/2016 at

      So much error in your response, where to begin. First, I don’t question Paul’s apostleship. Second, yes your not my pastor, but your not a pastor to anyone, a woman cannot be an Elder, I have already mentioned several passages that you are not willing to address, but then again you state “stop using scripture to sooth your argument”, this shows me and everyone else here how low you very scripture. I don’t have issues with women, this is about scripture (that you avoid and obviously loathe) and your function or role as a woman, you obviously hate God because what God has decreed, you feel the need to disobey. I do have a daughter and a wife, and they know their God given roles, they are NOT perverted with all the lies of your liberal theology. And by the way, if you read the Bible, the renewing of the mind is done by reading the Bible. In regards to Aimee Semple McPherson, do your research on her, have you ever picked up a history book? The woman was full of scandal, lies and desired to be a cult of personality, like I had previously stated the Corinth church with all its “showy gifts”, perhaps that is why you stated “who knows your name?” I am not interested in who knows my name, obviously this is what makes someone “qualified”. I don’t doubt your love for Christ, but you are a misguided woman who really needs to learn much.

  14. Anonymous 06/04/2016 at

    The tos and fro in the ministry ,Moses is the great example but don’t for get the promises is given by “if” and ” then” principle in the Bible. Romans 8:28 Godbless you!

  15. Steve 06/04/2016 at

    Great article and great conclusion. Pastoral ministry is a privilege even when it’s hard. Thanks for for sharing your thoughts!

  16. Allen Cherry 06/04/2016 at

    Even with all twenty of the statements, which all are true, I still enjoy doing what I’ve been called. God is faithful to us when we are faithful to Him.

  17. Anonymous 06/04/2016 at

    People will tell you women are not permitted to be pastors, even though it was three women who were the first ones commissioned to share the good news, by the angel in the empty tomb, “Go and tell his disciples, ‘He is not here, he is risen…’.”

    • Redeemed52 06/08/2016 at

      God’s choosing to have the women closest to him be the first to share the news of his resurrection in no way negates his charge that pastors of his church be men. There is no scripture that even alludes to women leading the church body. None.

  18. Carol 06/04/2016 at

    I’m not a pastor, and this makes me sad for them, makes me want to pray more for them, and makes me appreciate them. I do, however try to share my faith in Jesus Christ every chance I get. If we just invite the lost people into our churches and don’t take the time to intentionally and specifically share the gospel message with them from the very start and then disciple them with the whole Truth of the Bible, we end up with a church full of just a few sheep and a lot of goats. And goats make a messy church.

    • Bob Silling 06/05/2016 at

      This article is super and right on target. Every point that you mentioned, pastors I know of have faced one time or another,and I have faced a number of them as well. This article should be the basis for a course to be taught in every seminary and bible college. In fact, it would be good to have this article taught in depth in seminars for pastors across this country. Thanks a million.
      Oh by the way,I can tell you first hand how true point nine is.

  19. G Ajewolé 06/04/2016 at

    This is a great read. Resonates with me & so many other young pastors… This is real, but it will be worth it. Thank you for sharing! Bless you richly!

  20. Ben 06/04/2016 at

    I’ve been doing it for 28 years and you definitely nailed it. My only additions would be that a staff member will betray you if you stay in it long enough. Every long-term pastor I know has a story. It’s extremely difficult to endure. The other is that you will worry about the offering but you won’t say anything because you don’t want people to think you’re all about the money. Great article!

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/04/2016 at

      Ben, thank you for your 28 years of faithful service! Unfortunatley, I think you are on point about the staff member betrayal, and I don’t know a pastor that hasn’t worried about the offering. Thanks for adding to the conversation.

  21. Bryan 06/04/2016 at

    Thanks for an honest, well-done article. I serve in a non-traditional pastoral role (with students primarily), but resonated with so many of these. Because so much of ministry is more than just what you learn in seminary, I think there’s a real place for some sort of course on this there. Something where seasoned pastors and ministry leaders can share information from their journeys, but then follow-up with smaller groups of students and even offer one-on-one follow-ups that cover some of this.

    I suppose that, like getting married and having kids, you follow your calling and just have to experience it, but some informed preparation might be helpful.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/04/2016 at

      Bryan, I wish there was a course on this in seminary. However, if there was, unfortunately, I probably have been too nieve and arrogant to believe I would ever struggle with these things. I like what your analogy to marriage and kids. I had to learn the hard way, but I could have been more prepared.

  22. Sylvester mpusia 06/04/2016 at

    Thank you so much. I am a pastor and I have gone through these things and reading your article encouraged me please keep doing more of these. Blessings from Nairobi Kenya.

  23. Michelle Lang 06/04/2016 at

    Great article! Consider adding “she” and “her” to the language as many Pastors/Preachers are women. Nevertheless, good read. Thank you.

    • Mark 06/04/2016 at

      I do not permit a woman to have authority over men, In 1 Timothy 3:1-7, the word “he” for the role of overseer is used about 9 times, “he is to be a husband of one wife” . Corinthians, women are to remain silent. Any woman who claims God has called them to an overseer or elder position is blaspheme. Sorry but, I don’t buy into the liberal 60’s baby boomer garbage and lies that have perverted the church. But, then again expectations are pretty low if it is a pagan Arminian group.

      • Lola Oyebade 06/04/2016 at

        I love you sir but you are NOT the One who do the calling and sending… There was a time that a woman wasn’t to vote, now they are voting. A woman is a pilot, a woman in my African culture is head of the shrine as priestess and her words are honoured by the King as she’s the spiritual authority for the community. Even in Israel a woman was appointed by God to lead Israel in a male dominating office as a Judge and a Prophetess. One of the finest leader of 20th century Israel Golder Meir is still honoured at Bengurion Airport today, when we fly across nations NO one ever asked if the pilot is a woman so “I will not enter the plane” No one says the Surgeon is a woman “I will rather die” only in the Body of Christ we read and see how saints used Paul Apostle’s statement has been used many times to keep God’s gift out. Founder of Foursquare was a woman. Great church planters are women who pastor these churches for a season and some are still pastoring them around the world.

        I thank God for men of God who recognised and still recognising that ONLY CHRIST is Supreme over tradition and culture NOT even apostle PAUL and in His Supremacy can send whosoever He ordained to serve His Purpose…

        I am grateful to be chosen as a woman for 27years in ministry of Jesus and Pastoring 21years…. I have encountered every points raised by our brother and have seen the grace of God in operation.

        Sir like Jesus said about Mary ” Leave that woman alone”

        • Mark 06/04/2016 at

          My previous point has been proven by your response. Very low expectations. A church that has a woman pastor does NOT have a shepherd. The rant over surgeons, pilots, voting, etc., has NOTHING to do with holding a position as Elder in a local church, not really sure why it was even mentioned, probably not really “thinking” things out in a Biblical manner. In regards to Deborah, Israel was being rebellious, Israel was under God’s condemnation, Israel’s condemnation also included having a woman placed in a role of headship. Foursquare in any SERIOUS theological circles could be considered a group lead by uneducated Biblically ignorant people who place more emphasis on “showy gifts”, a Corinthian establishment for the 20th and 21st century. If you are truly a pastor, you deal with the Bible, not with what the world and culture are doing, So, pastor, how do you treat the BIBLE scriptures of 1 Timothy 3:2, Titus 1:6 and 1 Corinthians 14:34? If you cannot explain these texts, you are NOT a pastor, at best a motivational speaker. A pastor works ONLY from the Bible, please explain what these BIBLE verses say.

  24. Gary 06/04/2016 at

    You forgot to mention bureaucrats in the denominational structure who will add unreasonable demands to your workload, expect impossible results from your ministry, and try to tell you how to do ministry when their own brief experience in pastoral ministry ended decades previously and they haven’t a clue about today’s pastoral challenges.

    • Bob Silling 06/05/2016 at

      Right on target with everything you said. I am glad I am not in one of those denominations.

  25. Old Sarge 06/04/2016 at

    I knew what I was getting into and still wanted to serve. Ministry can be messy and can suck, but ministry is still worth it.

  26. Anonymous 06/04/2016 at


  27. Ap.GE Swanagan 06/03/2016 at

    I share the same thoughts as you do. If I only had someone to pull me to the side an explain somethings to me. Apostle you don’t know who you are mentoring even those who disagree with you they are still being mentoring. From the movie Drumline the director stated “it’s show time” keep showing, teaching ,preaching and pastoring. You are blessed

    • Pastor Lola Oyebade 06/04/2016 at

      Thank you and God bless.

      This is why I wrote my book Ordination-A licence to die before you live..

      Your points are real and I pray those just starting and those of us that are already pastoring will not give up…The gain is surely more than the pain.

  28. Ezekiel 06/03/2016 at

    Thank you pastor for this lovely and encouraging article, permit to add this….
    There are principles and values we must tenaciously uphold and what should be expected of us as we make journey to establishing of this kingdom. This principles and values are to properly represent God well through our lives and avoid anything that will stain and taint the gospel of the kingdom we herald. We are privileged to be His representative. Even when we are perplex and troubled on every side, persecuted and made to face most severe challenges of different sorts. One thing is certain they are working out the beauty of God within us and serves also as a testimony for us. While we look not at the things which are seen, but at the things which are not seen. The things which are seen are temporal; but the things which are not seen are everlasting. Our main goal should be forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forth unto those things which are before which is pressing toward the pathways and route leading to fulfilling the desire of our heavenly Father on Earth.

  29. Johnson E Egwuche 06/03/2016 at

    This teaching is indeed really impactful.Every called and ordained servant of God,most especially at the initial stage of the ministry or answering the call,has one challenge or the other he/she faces.Pastors have to depend on God,for everything.May God’s great grace be made available for every minister of the Gospel in Jesus name.FOR WE ARE MORE THAN CONQUEROR! AS A CALLED VESSEL,BE REST ASSURED THAT,HE WILL PROVIDE FOR YOU AND TAKE CARE OF EVRYTHING THAT CONCERNS YOU.PRAISE GOD.AMEN.THANKS SIR,FOR THIS ARTICLE.

    • Anonymous 06/06/2016 at

      you noted most especially at the initial stage of ministry; that is where i stand and would like to learn more about how to get through those times and not feeling alone

  30. Anonymous 06/03/2016 at

    #18 is real. After 25 years of marriage, when my husband became pastor the devil got busy. Destroyed my family when my husband impregnated the youth evangelist (35 years younger than he) at the church. Now they are together, Going through HELL.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/03/2016 at

      I am so sorry, and saddened to hear that. Thank you for sharing your story. I cannot imagine how you must feel. Praying for you.

    • Bob Silling 06/05/2016 at

      Your husband apparently wasn’t called into the ministry. So sorry to hear of your troubles. May God be with you in power, love, and peace.

      • Jesse 05/30/2017 at

        That’s so sad to hear! It’s a tragic and common tale. Problem partly lies in accoutabilty even David fell massively into sin. I’ve experience many ministers that have done similar rotten things and even called them out on it and got the boot too. No one is immune to sin. But when leadership takes no interest in listening to others or their ego is inflated by a perceived success lives are destroyed. I’m truly sorry for you. I pray the Lord will heal your broken heart. Thank you for being open and honest about your pain.

  31. Anonymous 06/03/2016 at

    It said I have comment on this before but I haven’t.

  32. Anonymous 06/03/2016 at

    Jesus never said it would be easy. I think if you were called to be a pastor or a preacher you know that you have to die to yourself daily.,that’s what Christian do. It is not a 9 -5 job no matter what and if you have a family that is what understood doesn’t need any explanation. Jesus took on our sins so we could have life because what we see is only temporary anyway.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/03/2016 at

      Absolutely, just look at the hardship that Paul and all the other Apostles faced. I don’t think any of them had it easy either. However, just because we are called to sacrifice our lives for ministry, doesn’t mean we should sacrifice our family and neglect our responsibility to minister to them either.

  33. Daniel 06/03/2016 at

    Absolutely relevant. It’s good to get encouragement from those ahead of you in this pastoral journey. I connect very well with number 9 “You will not be discipled unless you seek it out yourself”
    Thank you

  34. Anonymous 06/02/2016 at

    This is helpful. I’ve been pastoring for three years and it seems the third year is the worse. I’ve been experiencing all of the above and have felt guilty for it. I know God has called me so the work continues!

  35. Anonymous 06/02/2016 at

    Thank u

  36. Kyle Waddell 06/02/2016 at

    I almost feel guilty. My first church was very hard,but my current church is absolutely wonderful. The demands are ruff at times but seeing lives changed is amazing.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/03/2016 at

      That’s awesome! Don’t feel guilty. Seeing a lives changed makes it all worth it

  37. Anonymous 06/02/2016 at


  38. Anonymous 06/02/2016 at

    All true and helpful. And remember – you have Almighty God as your source for wisdom, strength, counsel, guidance, and help in all situations. Also – Keep family in your heart, thoughts and prayers consistently.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/02/2016 at

      Absolutely! This list should only cause us to depend more upon God for our source everything. Excellent point.

  39. VC 06/02/2016 at

    I’m blessed by your words. As someone who is approaching such a stage. Thank you. #14 has helped my ministry is ways immeasurable.

    • VC 06/02/2016 at


    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/02/2016 at

      Thanks VC. Seminary is tough, but the education is invaluable. God bless you and your future minsitry.

      • Calvin R. Hart Sr 06/03/2016 at

        Hi Brandon Hilgemann, I have a graduate degree from United Theological seminary in Dayton Ohio. Preacher it is one of the best investment, that I could have made in my ministry. I’m praying for you, hang in their preacher. Bless you

        • Brandon Hilgemann 06/03/2016 at

          Thanks Calvin. It is definitely an investment, but well worth it like you said

  40. Anonymous 06/02/2016 at

    The loneliness you and your spouse experience

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/02/2016 at

      Wow, that is so true. Even when I have been surrounded by thousands of people in a congregation, the moment you leave the relationships are all gone or left on Facebook. Plus, there are times when in ministry, it can be lonely because you are the leader and some people have a relationship with you because you are their pastor, but it’s not true friendship.

      • Pastor T 06/02/2016 at

        AMEN Pastor………&…”A-AAAAAAAAMEN…for the Entire article !!!

    • Anonymous 06/02/2016 at

      So true Pastor. The challenging part for my spouse and I is finding pastoral couples to connect with who are likeminded. We have many associates who are part of the “circle” but very few who are willing to “take off the mask”. Thank you for you input and transparency. You’re an asset to the kingdom!

  41. Bernard Robertson 06/02/2016 at

    Thank you! This is a great help. Very encouraging!

  42. Dr. Peterson 06/02/2016 at

    Thanks a million Pastor…Stay blessed!

  43. Dr. Peterson 06/02/2016 at

    Thanks a million Pastor….

  44. William. 06/02/2016 at

    A couple of other things that may enhance your points that I have really struggled with include:

    1. You will need to learn what motivates people. Each person is different. Some motivated by family loyalty, some by leaving a legacy, some by love for Christ, some by avoiding pain, some by fame, some by money, etc.

    2. You will need to be a conflict resolution specialist. With people there will always be conflict. Peoples will have personality clashes. People will get offended. People will misunderstand. You will need Gods help to navigate through these conflicts.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/02/2016 at

      Thanks for adding to the conversation William. Those are some great points! Amen, especially to number 2.

  45. David Ward 06/02/2016 at

    Very real points. Been a Pastor since 1982.

    • Brandon Hilgemann 06/02/2016 at

      David, thank you for your faithful service. That is amazing. Praying I can have such a faithful life of ministry.

  46. Bucky 06/01/2016 at

    Wow thank you

  47. Pastor J.A. Lang 05/31/2016 at

    Wow this was very powerful, affirming and quite triue!

    • Brandon Hilgemann 05/31/2016 at

      Thanks J.A. it is good to know that other pastors have felt these things too.

  48. P. B. 05/30/2016 at

    Great encouragement; I am an elder candidate and really identify with this.

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